No matter what you do, you can’t seem to get her excited about sex. Is this scenario a familiar one? Every guy has gone through it at least once.
Things seem to be working out fine until the end of the night arrives. This is when everything goes downhill and nobody gets laid.
Women are sexual creatures as much as men are. There is usually a specific reason for her refusal of sex, especially if the chemistry is there.
She’s Insecure About Her Body
Yes, that’s a reason enough for a woman to refuse sex. Ladies are bombarded with messages about how they should look, what their skin should feel like, how they should remove their hair, what their scent should be, etc.
No living female creature on the planet will be capable of meeting this extensive list of requirements.
If you want to have sex with her and you know that she’s conscious about her body, it will be your job to make her feel desired.
Let her know that you don’t really care whether she’s managed to shave her legs right before going out or if she’s wearing lingerie. If you embrace her body with all of its imperfections, chances are that sooner or later, she will be comfortable enough to have sex with you.
She Doesn’t Want To Be Perceived As “Easy”
This is another detrimental societal notion that messes up with the self-perception and the sexuality of so many women.
Women are expected to remain virtuous, to refrain from “giving up the goods” too soon. This is the main reason why stupid rules about the number of dates a woman should wait before having sex exist.
There isn’t an awful lot you can do about this one. If you push her harder, chances are that she’ll become even more reluctant. Decide whether the woman you’re currently with is worth waiting and if so, respect her boundaries.
In case you don’t feel like she’s got everything it takes for you to make a compromise, you should simply move on.
Sex Is Painful Or Uncomfortable
A woman who has had sex with you before but is now not into it will probably have a legitimate reason for her refusal.
Female physiology makes women prone to infections, tears and other problems that could lead to painful sex. Until she identifies an issue and she finds a treatment for it, chances are that she’s not going to be in the mood.
When you’re with a partner, it’s also a good idea to inquire whether she likes it rough or gentle. Some women simply can’t handle rougher sex because they don’t have sufficient lubrication.
If you’d like to opt for something wilder, you’ll simply have to do tons of foreplay in advance and you’ll also need to purchase a high quality lubricant.
Lack Of Emotional Connection
Having an emotional connection is important for most people who get intimate with each other. Women put an even bigger emphasis on it than men.
If she feels detached, chances are that she wouldn’t want to have sex with you. For many women, the lack of emotional intimacy takes all of the fun and the excitement out of seek. It becomes a mere physical act that doesn’t bring a lot of pleasure.
Such detachment is common in people who have been together for some time. It’s also typical for younger couples who don’t know each other well enough.
The solution in both instances is in your hands. Give her some time and work on the emotional aspects of the relationship. Be attentive, interested and present for her. You will notice a change in her attitude almost immediately.