Sex is such an endless universe that keeps people engaged and eager to learn more. This is the main reason why so many clichés and misconceptions still circulate around.
Regardless of your experience level, it’s still possible to believe in some of these clichés. They’ll limit your sex life and result in some dissatisfaction with the experience. Here are a few of the most common sex clichés you should stop believing right now.
Sex In Real Life Is The Same As Sex In Movies
Whether you’re watching porn or romantic films with your significant other, there’s one important thing to understand – sex in real life has very little to do with what films are showing you.
Actual sex is messy, sweaty, sometimes funny and sometimes awkward. It doesn’t always lead to orgasms for both parties involved. Simultaneous orgasms aren’t particularly common either.
Porn is also guilty for numerous sex clichés. They don’t show all of the prep that comes to make the act itself arousing and exciting. Women don’t really enjoy intercourse that lasts about 75 minutes. Some women may enjoy aggressive sex but others will not.
Sex can be much less glamorous than what films are showing you and that’s ok. What matters is communicating with your partner and figuring out what both of you enjoy. Don’t count on the lessons that you’ve learned from the films. They don’t really apply in real life.
Shower Sex Is Amazing
This is another cliché that you’ve heard about numerous times. You probably even got information about a steamy bathroom session from a friend. Don’t believe this information. Shower sex is anything but amazing.
Anyone who has tried having sex in the shower knows that everything feels slippery and there’s actual threat of falling down on top of your partner. The risk of injuries is significant if you don’t know what you’re doing. In essence, shower sex isn’t really worth it.
You may enjoy a sensual bath with your partner and it will feel real good. Oral sex in the shower is another fun idea to try. Full-on penetrative sex, however, is going to be logistically difficult.
Most often, showers will not be designed for two people. The limited space, the running water and the tiles make it anything but fun. You may still want to try but be careful. Your partner should have sufficient support (for example, leaning against a wall), otherwise falling down will become highly probable.
Ripping Clothes Off Is Easy And Hot
Some problems will stem from attempting to rip clothes off.
For a start, many fabrics aren’t that easy to get through. A lacy thong may seem like a minor obstacle but once you attempt to rip it in half, you’ll find out that it will resist your efforts vigorously.
Another thing to be careful about is ripping her favorite, expensive underwear. Lingerie can be quite costly and most women have a limited number of pairs. If you destroy an expensive piece that she’s just bought, you’ll probably get her mad rather than aroused. It’s a good idea to coordinate such passionate displays with your partner prior to getting into a scandal.
Cunnilingus Is The Ultimate Pleasure Act
Most men are led to believe that all women adore receiving oral sex. As weird as this may seem, it’s an awful cliché.
There are some women who despise a partner going down on them. The sensation may feel awkward or it simply isn’t going to do anything for them. Some women also experience anxieties when it comes to the look, the feel and the taste of their vagina. Thus, they’ll never consent to oral sex or they’ll let a partner go down without actually enjoying it.
Sex preferences are so diversified that you can’t really make an assumption. What should you do to make the experience enjoyable? Ask her about it! If she doesn’t want you to perform oral sex, she’ll reveal other options that will stimulate her body and result in amazing sex that doesn’t involve cunnilingus.
Big Penis = Amazing Sex
This cliché is once again the result of the adult film industry. It’s made so many men feel inferior because of the size of their penis. The good news is that a big penis isn’t always conductive of amazing sex. In fact, some women will feel threatened by a massive organ.
Good sex isn’t really linked to the size of your penis, it has a lot more to do with how you’re using it. Your technique, the sex positions you choose and the additional stimulation that you provide your partner with will all matter.
It’s also true that some women will feel threatened by a big penis. It may feel uncomfortable or even painful in the case of deep penetration. This is why sexual communication matters. Figure out what she prefers and choose sex positions accordingly. Bigger isn’t always better!
Women Don’t Masturbate
When it comes to masturbation, it’s considered primarily a guy thing. Women aren’t perceived as such sexual creatures that like giving themselves a bit of pleasure every now and then.
Guess what, women usually masturbate as much as men do. They don’t really talk about it too much, which is why the cliché has remained a popular one.
Chances are that your partner masturbates quite often. Ask her about it – there’s nothing to feel ashamed about. In fact, mutual masturbation or watching her please herself can be quite hot. In addition to being a massive turn on, it will give you a much better idea about how she likes to be stimulated.
Women Hate Giving Oral Sex
In the past, women were expected to be prudes in the bedroom. There were extensive guides for new brides, suggesting how they shouldn’t enjoy sex or interact with their partner in a way that would arouse him.
This past is still somewhat alive in a few sexual clichés so many people believe in.
One of the most ridiculous clichés is that all women hate giving oral sex and they simply do it to please their partners. Needless to say, this is a massive misconception that often leads to a bad reputation for the women who are different.
Many women enjoy giving oral sex and they’re massively turned on by it. The idea of pleasing a partner and being the one in control can be incredibly arousing. It’s very easy to tell whether a woman is having fun. If this is the case, she will be capable of delivering mind-blowing oral sex.
Once again – you should talk to her to figure out if she enjoys giving oral sex. It’s also a good idea to observe her behavior in the bedroom. If she initiates oral sex quite often, chances are that she’s having fun while doing it. Forget about the clichés and simply have fun with your ladies. Such an attitude towards sex will be tremendously liberating.