Men are from Mars, women are from Venus or so the saying goes. While the differences between the sexes aren’t that major, they tend to be well-expressed when it comes to sex.
Guys and girls view intimacy in different ways. By saying this, we don’t mean that all women are romantic and looking for a deep, emotional bond. Sexual desires are determined by the libido in both genders. Still, there are a few profound differences between male and female sexuality.
Men who want to be better lovers should definitely understand a couple of important things about women and sex. Here are the top essentials that will get her heated up every single time and result in much more spectacular sex for both parties involved.
Good Sex Involves A Lot More Than Penetration
Let’s face it – penetrative sex is typically a lot more exciting for the guy than for the woman.
The overwhelming majority of women is capable of reaching an orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Many of these women don’t get anything from penis in vagina sex. While it typically feels very nice, it will be insufficient to get her to climax.
If you want to give a woman the most intense pleasure of her life, you should focus on her clitoris. Use your fingers, give her a bit of oral sex or stimulate her while having intercourse. Spooning and woman on top are two excellent positions that will free up one of your hands and allow you to do clitoral stimulation.
Ignoring her most sensitive spot is a big no-no. Even if you don’t feel like giving this particular lady oral sex, you can still do a number of highly stimulating things to make the experience much more pleasurable for her.
Women Can Fake An Orgasm For Various Reasons
Numerous women confess that they’ve faked an orgasm with at least one of their sexual partners. According to a Psychology Today report, approximately 70 percent of women will not experience an orgasm during penetrative sex. Instead of looking for another type of stimulation, many of these women will fake it.
While numerous guys think that they’re capable of telling whether a woman has orgasmed, it can be very difficult to call a bluff.
Women fake orgasms for many reasons. Some are worried that their partners will not be happy if they learn that the sex wasn’t good enough. Some want to boost the ego of their partner. Some simply want to get the sex over with.
The only way to learn if a partner has climaxed is to talk to her and be direct about it. If your relationship is based on mutual trust, chances are that she’ll open up. You can also ask her about the sexual technique that stimulates her the most. Having such conversations in the bedroom can improve the quality of your sex life significantly.
The G-Spot Is A Real Thing
Do you want to take things to the next level? If so, you should definitely attempt to do G-spot stimulation.
The G-spot is a patch of “rough” tissue on the front wall of the vagina (the upper region). While some women have never experienced G-spot arousal, others swear by it and claim that it happens to be one of the most intense sexual experiences.
G-spot stimulation is possible when you insert a finger in her vagina and rubbing it against the front wall. As already mentioned, the spot should have a different texture from the rest of the vaginal lining.
While giving G-spot stimulation is definitely worth a try, it may not be the right option for your lady. Inquire about how the stimulation feels and if she doesn’t like it, move on to something else.
Foreplay Isn’t Always Necessary
All magazines and websites aimed at giving sexual advice agree on one thing – women love hours of foreplay and they need it in order to get in the mood for sex.
Slow and sensual sex is definitely a good thing. Most women and men enjoy it because it enables couples to get to know their bodies well. Taking enough time to have proper foreplay is also a good thing, especially if you’re in love and you’re engaging in the romantic variety of sex.
Just like men, however, women enjoy quickies every now and then.
Quick sex with no foreplay is usually a good idea when both of you are heated up and “ready to go.” It can happen in the backseat of the car, in the bathroom of a restaurant or in a tent while you’re on a mountain hike.
What we’re trying to say is that there’s no formula you should follow every single time. Trust your instincts and do what feels right in that very moment. If you overthink the process, chances are that the sex will be mediocre at best.
Personal Hygiene Matters A Lot!
When it comes to great and passionate sex, personal hygiene is an absolute essential. Don’t ignore the importance of having a shower prior to getting nasty between the sheets.
Women are attracted to clean skin and a nice scent. True, you’ll probably get sweaty during passionate sex. Still, she’s not going to mind it if you showered prior to the steamy episode.
You can turn the personal hygiene routine in a part of the foreplay. It will be something different and it can be a really wonderful experience. Having a shower together will give both of you a better idea about each other’s bodies. You can also experiment with erogenous zones and stimulation while applying soap or a body wash.
There’s one very simple rule to remember – if you want to get oral sex, you should definitely take care of personal hygiene in advance. Chances are that you’re not going to go down on her if she hasn’t taken care of her intimate hygiene. The very same rule applies to ladies.
Sex is not complicated, especially if you know how to communicate about it. If you’re not certain about a specific aspect of female sexuality, talk to your partner about it. Being open enough will help her relax and communicate about such issues with you. Don’t be shy and take charge of the situation. Both of you will appreciate the decision later on.