If you think that you’re the only one out there who doesn’t have a perfect sex life, you’re wrong. Most couples will face at least one sexual issue every once in a while. The trick is knowing how to address the problem quickly to prevent it from affecting the relationship.
A few sexual issues classify as much more common than the others. Here are a few of the top problems that couples are bound to experience in their time together.
The lack of libido is considered to be more of a female thing but this isn’t true. Both men and women are prone to losing their sexual desire every now and then.
Most often, the loss of libido will be caused by stress, having to work too hard at the office and relationship problems. While hormones do control sexual desire, it’s heavily dependent on psychological factors.
If you’re not having sex as often as you’d like to, the time may be right to talk to your partner. Being open and honest about the situation is the only possible way to find a resolution.
Guilt tripping someone to have sex with you isn’t going to deliver the improvements that you’re hoping for in the long run.
No Time for Sex
While both of you may be willing to have sexy times often, chances are that circumstances don’t always allow for such intimate activities.
Various studies show that modern couples are having sex much less frequently than their parents and grandparents did. Work commitments, a stressful lifestyle, taking care of the kids and chores can kill anyone’s ability to perform in the bedroom.
The worst thing is that not having time for sex or being too tired will lead to a vicious cycle. If you don’t do anything about it, chances are that you’ll be living in a sexless relationship/marriage pretty soon.
In order to overcome this issue, you’ll have to make a conscious effort to have sex even if you’re tired. Start by scheduling sex once per week or as often as the two of you desired. Once you make sex a regular part of your life, chances are that you’ll want it more frequently.
Also, there’s no need to do an elaborate sexual routine every single time. A quickie can be as satisfying, especially if you haven’t had sex in a long, long time.
No Desire To Experiment
Unless you’re a perfect sexual match, chances are that one of you will be more daring in the bedroom than the other one.
If you’d like to bring sex toys in the routine or experiment with something new and your partner is hesitant, chances are that you’re feeling bad about it.
On one hand, you should accept their desires. Some people are comfortable with traditional sex and they don’t want to try anything else. Don’t pressure your significant other or threaten them into becoming kinkier.
On the other hand, you shouldn’t give up on your desire to experiment. Sit down and talk. What would they be willing to accept? Chances are that they may be ready for a compromise.
If sex toys seem a bit too much, you can try some warming up lubricant or a penis ring in the beginning. A partner who enjoys such an experiment will be much more willing to go for something else out of the usual.
Sex Becomes A Routine
Sex will stop being exciting in a long-term relationship. Some people will find it boring, some will find it less satisfying and some will become emotionally-detached during the act.
It’s impossible to keep the spark you had in those first few months of the relationship alive. After all, in the beginning it’s all about lust. As you get to know each other and you spend more time together, the initial excitement will subside.
Don’t remain silent about feeling detached or seeing sex as a chore. If you don’t speak up, chances are that things will become worse and the level of sexual frustration will go through the roof.
Some couples find a way to make things better through experimentation. Others see a sex therapist. Open up to your partner, see how they feel about the situation and together, you can start looking for a mutually-beneficial solution.