It’s the ultimate goal for so many men to last longer in bed. In our society, masculinity is linked to an ability to last sufficiently long in order to please a partner (and then some more).
According to one intriguing study, penetrative sex lasts about two minutes for 45 percent of men. The time is counted from initial penetration to ejaculation. While anything between two and seven minutes is considered normal, many men are unhappy with their endurance.
If you’re one of these men, chances are that you’re looking for ways to make things last longer in the bedroom. There are a few approaches you can rely on for the purpose, some being more effective than others.
Before moving on to the strategies, however, we’d like to point out that sex continuing for too long isn’t seen as desirable for most women. When questioned, ladies tend to confirm that penetrative sex continuing for more than 20 or 30 minutes isn’t particularly enjoyable for them. Thus, it’s all about finding that sweet spot and knowing how long it takes for your partner to orgasm. This is the number of minutes you should aim to achieve. Lasting an hour in bed for the sake of lasting an hour isn’t going to be particularly beneficial for anyone.
Edging is a technique that some guys have mastered, enabling them to delay the onset of an orgasm.
In order to master the technique, you may want to start with masturbation before moving on to practicing edging with a partner. You’ll have to bring yourself to a level of high arousal, almost on the brink of an orgasm. At that point, all sexual stimulation should cease until you’ve managed to calm yourself down a bit.
Stimulation will then proceed until a person is brought to edge once again. At this point it ceases. The pattern can be extended for as long as a person would like to experience sexual stimulation without an orgasm. An added benefit of edging is that once the climax is achieved, it will be much more powerful than a “regular” orgasm.
Edging is a particularly beneficial technique for the men who suffer from premature ejaculation and the ones whose partner has a difficulty reaching an orgasm within a relatively short period of time.
By exercises, we don’t mean going to the gym. An entirely different set of exercises will be required to last longer in bed.
Penis enhancement routines are mainly used to improve the erectile response but some of them could also boost stamina. Kegel exercises rank among the best options for men who want to last longer in bed.
Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. These are the ones that help for a powerful erection and they’re also the ones that contract during an orgasm.
Stronger pelvic floor muscles give men more ejaculatory control. By doing kegel exercises on a regular basis, many guys have become capable of delaying the onset of their orgasm. As you become better, you should increase the number and the duration of the kegel contractions that you do. Eventually, you’ll notice a positive change during sex.
Use Desensitizing Condoms And Other Products
If nothing else works and you get aroused too quickly, you may want to consider specialized products that are developed for the needs of men like you.
One of the simplest options comes in the form of a desensitizing condom. This is usually a regular condom that features a little bit of numbing agent on the inside. The anesthetic decreases penis sensitivity during sex, making it more difficult to reach an orgasm.
The alternative is a desensitizing spray or a cream. These products (Enlast is one example) are applied topically on the penis before sex. The application is dose-dependent. The more you put on, the more powerful the desensitizing effect is going to be.
Some men may worry about a complete loss of sensitivity during sex because of such products. There’s no reason to feel concerned. Desensitizing sprays and creams reduce arousal but they don’t eliminate the sensation. If you’re using a desensitizing product according to manufacturer recommendations, you’ll still get to orgasm.
While this may seem like nonsense to some guys, it’s a perfectly logical and legitimate option for controlling arousal during sex and lasting longer.
Breathing control can be used to slow down the heart rate, stay in charge or arousal and eventually orgasm after a sufficiently long period of penetrative sex.
If you feel way too aroused, take a second or two to complete a few deep breaths. Use your diagram and try to slow your breathing down. Quick breathing is very common during an orgasm in both men and women. Slowing things down will help you regain control.
There’s just one problem when it comes to employing the technique – she may think you’re a weirdo. Overcoming the issue is simple. Let her know what you’re doing and you may even suggest doing deep breathing together. This exercise is as beneficial for men, as it is for women. Chances are that both of you will experience a completely different sensation if you give the possibility a try.
Focus On Her Pleasure
The final tip isn’t going to make you last longer in the bedroom per se but it will give both parties involved the satisfaction that they desire from intimacy.
Instead of jumping straight into penetrative sex, you may want to consider building a routine that focuses on her pleasure. If you manage to make her orgasm first, the duration of penetrative sex and the amount of time required until you come will not be that important.
Talk to your partner openly about it. Inquire about what she likes and what’s needed to get her off. Some women will be capable of orgasming solely from good oral sex. Others will need a little bit of additional stimulation like the one that’s derived from sex toys.
The more you’re eager to please your partner and expand the range of sexual practices you’ve incorporated in your routine. If necessary, choose a few products for the purpose of lasting longer. Such approaches will give you a higher level of confidence and they’ll make you much more satisfied with your sex life.